So you’ve been exploring the thrilling world of BDSM, and you are ready to take the plunge and build your very own BDSM dungeon. A space dedicated to exploring bondage, sexual pleasure, vulnerability, power play, and the sweet and salty mix of pleasure and pain.
Putting together your own BDSM dungeon makes you the master curating your space to suit your desires, but where to start? We’ve put together a list of BDSM dungeon must-have items to help get your dungeon ready for play.
If you don’t have space for a full sex dungeon or aren’t ready to take the plunge yet, you can focus on building your collection of BDSM accessories. Scour your local antique shops for a dungeon-worthy sex chest and start building your collection — there’s plenty of inspiration further down the page.
BDSM Dungeon Furniture
Before getting carried away, assess what space and budget you are working with to get a clear idea of how many larger items of furniture you are shopping for. You should also consider what functionality is most important to you. Do you want something you can lie down on, something that hangs from the ceiling, or something to keep your hold your partner in a particular position?
Here are some fantastic furniture options that will take your BDSM scenes to the next level.
BDSM Bed
BDSM beds are specially designed to support a whole host of restraints to keep your partner locked in different positions and at your mercy. You can even turn your own boring bed into one by purchasing sex bed straps. They are much stronger than your average bed, so you don’t have to worry about things getting too wild. Not to mention, they add a lot of visual drama. They look industrial, imposing, and powerful — everything you would want in a BDSM dungeon!
The Dore Alley Dungeon Bed
The Dore Alley Dungeon Bed will dominate any dungeon with its cage-like design — just perfect for holding your partner captive! The strong steel tubing frame has a number of reinforced restraints for the wildest of scenes and can even be used with a sex sling for more ways to play.
Under-Bed Restraints
If your space or budget can’t accommodate a BDSM bed, you can use some under-bed restraints to transform a regular bed. Bondage Boutique’s Black Bound to Please Under Mattress Restraints slip easily under your mattress and allows you to restrain your partner by the wrists and ankles.
Pro tip…
No matter what bed you use, you’ll want to invest in some fluid-proof sheets to protect your mattress when things get wet! The Fascinator Throw from Liberator combines luxuriously fabric with an inner moisture barrier and is easy to throw over any surface you choose to play on.
A Spanking Bench or Bondage Bench
A spanking bench allows you to restrict your partner’s movements and gives you easy access from behind. Spanking benches can be combined with different restraints to alter how much your partner can move and which position you want them in.
The Stockroom Padded Spanking Bench
This devilish-looking spanking bench from The Stockroom has more than 20 different attachment points, giving you plenty of options to play with.
A Sex chair or Sex Chaise
Sex chairs range in size from a smaller stool to a full-blown chaise longue. Sex stools often have an open seat, allowing one partner to perform oral sex from below. They can also be used for support in different positions and can be used with restraints, such as ankle restraints. A sex chaise is more similar to a bed but with a curved body, which is perfect for trying out more adventurous sex positions.
The Black Label Esse
The Black Label Esse comes in black velvet with 24 attachment points to tie your partner up while you get experimental with new positions.
The headrest and mini scoop offer even more support, allowing you to open up in ways you didn’t even know were possible!
Sex Swing
Sex swings can be used both for restraint and getting into some more gymnastic positions! They are especially great for adding more support in standing sex poses and holding the seated partner in open poses.
Should I choose a sex swing or a sex sling?
It depends on what you want to use it for. Swings have more position possibilities and a greater range of movement, whereas slings are better for restraint and are often come in more dungeon-style designs.
Strict Leather Premium Sex Sling + Chain Kit
This leather sling from Strict comes with leather stirrups and a leather pillow to keep your partner comfy while they are tied in position. The harsh leather and chains are perfect for as a bondage swing in any BDSM dungeon.
Budget option
If you don’t have the space or budget for a full sex swing, you can still have some elevated loving with an over-the-door sex swing, like the Sportsheets Door Jam Sex Swing. While you don’t get the range of movement or restraint you would get with a sex swing, you can still keep your partner elevated and wide open for you to enjoy.
MORE OPTIONS: Check out this review of the best sex swings
Adding to Your Dungeon Collection
Once you’ve got the basics in place, you can start to add more specialized BDSM Dungeon furniture as your tastes evolve. The Stockroom and Cnbluerabbit has a whole section of their website dedicated to dungeon furniture, including this incredible-looking Triangle St Andrew’s Cross to keep your partner locked upright in a spread-legged position and even a cage that doubles as a coffee table. Your BDSM dungeon is your place to bring your fantasies to life.
BDSM Dungeon Must-Have Accessories
Now you’ve picked out your statement pieces, you’ll need restraints to lock your partner to your new furniture and some toys to torture and tease them with!
The great thing about accessories is that you can build them up over time to suit your preferences. Why not start a BDSM dungeon wishlist of all the different sex toys and restraints you desire!
Restraints
You are going to want some sturdy restraints for your dungeon that can be used to lock your partner to your new furniture and keep them firmly where you want them. Here are some basic restraints to start your collection.
Ankle and Wrist Restraints
Wrist and ankle restraints allow you to secure your partner’s hands and legs wherever you want them. Either lock them together to limit their movement or lock them to the attachment points on your new furniture. These matching, leather wrist and ankle cuffs from Dominix Deluxe are both strong and sexy.
Bondage Rope
Bondage rope gives you more freedom to freestyle your bondage techniques. You can tie your partner up exactly how you want them, put them in compromising positions for some predicament play, or experiment with Shibari. This bondage rope from Bondage Boutique is soft enough to keep your partner comfortable but strong enough to keep them where they belong.
Ball Gag
Gags are perfect for keeping your partner quiet while you tease and please them however you see fit. They enhance power play and can be used for control and humiliation. They also might come in handy if your BDSM dungeon isn’t quite as soundproof as you’d like!
Dominix Deluxe doesn’t disappoint with this leather bit gag that will leave your partner speechless aside from the muffled groans of pleasure and pain. The added d-rings mean it can be combined with your other restraints to really up the ante.
Sensation Play Toolkit
You are also going to need some stimulating toys to torment your partner’s senses. Start slow to build anticipation before increasing the sensation and seeing what they can handle.
A Feather Tickler
Use your tickler to awaken your partner’s tactile senses and discover their hidden corners of sensitivity. While a tickler sounds gentle, it can play tricks on the mind, leaving the recipient in fear and anticipation and craving the firm touch of your hand. Lovehoney’s Oh! Feather Tickler is an inexpensive but thrilling addition to any sensation play toolkit.
A Spanking Paddle
If you’ve got a spanking bench, you definitely need a spanking paddle! You can choose how naughty or nice you want to be. This cheeky paddle from Sportsheets leaves a naughty label on your partner, making it perfect for humiliation play.
A Leather Flogger
Keeping with the leather theme, another must-have accessory is a bdsm flogger. Bondage Boutique’s faux leather flogger is vegan friendly and can be used to alternate between caressing strokes and stinging whips.
Toys for Temperature Play
Another way to toy with your partner’s senses is by incorporating temperature play into the mix. Stainless steel and glass sex toys can be heated or cooled to add a little more spice. The Pure Wand from Njoy can be heated or cooled using water and has two ends that are perfect for anal or vaginal play. Massage candles are another great way to add heat play. Drip the warm wax onto your partner’s skin to awaken their senses and build the excitement with a warm massage before taking things up a notch with your other tools.
Sex Toys
Sex toys are like tattoos — once you start, you just can’t stop. While there really is no limit to what sex toys you can have in your dungeon, and like all things, it’s largely a matter of preference, there are some essential sex toys that are bound to be put to good use in any BDSM dungeon.
A Magic Wand
When thinking about vibrators, you want something that is easy to use on another person that has varying power settings. A magic wand vibrator is perfect for this and there are so many great options to choose from. This sleek black wand from Tantric looks the part and delivers intensely pleasing vibrations. It’s also waterproof, meaning it’s good to go no matter how wet things get!
An Inflatable Anal Plug
Inflatable plugs can be pumped up to experiment with size and stretching sensations, and they are great for power play when the pump is in your partner’s hands. The great thing about inflatables is that their size grows along with your ability to take larger toys, meaning you don’t need to buy endless butt plugs in different sizes. This inflatable anal plug from Lovehoney even has remote-controlled vibrations to tease your partner’s tush!
A Sex Machine
Sex machines, the dons on dungeon sex toys. Yes, they are loud and expensive, but boy are they powerful! If you crave power, enjoy forced orgasms, or want to take your double penetration fantasies to the next level, investing in a sex machine will be worth every penny. The Cowgirl offers 1200 rpm vibrations and 360 degrees of rotation, which are bound to leave you more than weak at the knees. The saddle-like design comes in black vegan leather, giving it the perfect sex dungeon look. Even better, it can be controlled by an app, so your partner can control your pleasure from a distance, giving them the perfect view.
BDSM Dungeon Essential Safety Accessories
The last must-have items are safety essentials. BDSM by nature blurs the boundaries between pleasure and pain and often involves activities that carry some risk, so it’s important to have a few essentials on standby to make sure you and anyone who dares enter your BDSM dungeon are safe.
First up is a first aid kit.
This is a no-brainer really. You want to make sure you have supplies for treating minor injuries, such as small wounds, burns, and bruises. Another essential product is a pair of medical shears or shears designed for cutting bondage rope in case you need to release your partner in an emergency.
An Aftercare Kit
You also want to keep a well-stocked aftercare kit for when the scene is over. This should include items to keep you and your partner warm, such as soft blankets or bathrobes, something to eat and drink, like sports drinks or water and high sugar snacks, and any other comforting items you and your partner enjoy to come out of a scene.
This list is by no means definitive or exhaustive, but more of a jumping-off point for anyone excited to get their BDSM dungeon up and running and ready for action. I would love to hear your suggestions for must-have BDSM dungeon essentials in the comments below!