4 Best Strap-Ons for Lesbians
One of my favorite things about vulva-on-vulva strap-on play is that there are so many fun and different options to explore. Lesbian strap-ons also tend to focus on dual stimulation, strong vibrations, and a less anatomical aesthetic. I’ve teamed up with the Bedbible Tester Team to rate and review some of our top recommendations for the lesbian strap-ons out there. Let’s have look!
Test Winner | Best for Beginners | Budget-Friendly | Best For Clit Stimulation |
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Lovense Lapis Strapless Strap-On | Tantus Bend Over Strap-On Kit | Strap-On-Me Bendable Strap-On Small | Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On |
$170Shop Now | $90Shop Now | $66Shop Now | $100Shop Now |
Pros & Cons | Pros & Cons | Pros & Cons | Pros & Cons |
How We Test strap ons for lesbians
We’re a team of 352 sex toy testers and 13 sex toy experts.
To find the very best strap ons for lesbians, our testers tried and reviewed 97 different products in this category.
Bad or even just mediocre strap ons for lesbians didn’t make the list!
In total, we’ve thoroughly tested and reviewed 1313 toys over the past 6 years.
We even lab-tested some to get objective data.
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Test Winner Lovense Lapis Strapless Strap-On
- Vibrating strapless strap-on
- Dildo has a lightly curved tip with subtle ridges on the shaft
- Adjustable hinge
- 3 motors can be controlled separately
- Connect to the Lovense remote app to customize vibration patterns, use interactive features, and try long-distance play.
Vibrations
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ App controls offer so much versatility
- ✅ Very powerful motors
- ✅ Great battery life
- ✅ Can be adjusted to fit your body
Cons
- ❌ Best to use with a strap-on harness
- ❌ Only available in one color
- ❌ Expensive
Why I Chose It
I chose the Lovense Lapis as the Test Winner because it’s one of the best vibrating strapless strap-ons on the market. I picked it as the best strap-on for lesbians, because it also provides internal, and external stimulation for the wearer, and it’s quite flexible, so you can have an easier time adjusting the angles. What I love about it is that it provides deep and rumbly vibrations, and it’s also app-controlled, which ensures smooth, hands-free play.
Our Bedbibe tester Joseph, who tested this toy for us also agreed that the Lapis is a top-quality strap-on “The powerful vibrations are incredibly satisfying, and the soft silicone feels luxurious.” I also appreciate how quiet it is, which makes it great for discreet play. That said, I do think using a harness with it makes a big difference. Joseph mentioned that “maintaining its position without a harness was a bit difficult,” which is pretty common with strapless strap-ons. But with a harness, it stays securely in place, making it much easier to focus on the fun.
Best for Beginners Tantus Bend Over Beginner Strap-On Kit
- Beginner-friendly strap-on kit
- 2 smooth silicone dildos (Tantus Silk Small (0.9″) & Tantus Silk Medium(1.25″))
- Adjustable fabric harness with a vibrator pocket (fits US dress sizes 4 to 30)
- 2 interchangeable o-rings
- Waterproof bullet vibrator.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Versatile strap-on kit that fits other dildos as well
- ✅ Good quality materials
- ✅ Both dildos and harness are easy to use and beginner-friendly
- ✅ Bullet vibrator and dildos can be used by themselves
- ✅ Harness fits a wide range of sizes
Cons
- ❌ Excess strap material can be annoying when not in use
- ❌ Bullet vibrator isn't very strong
- ❌ Vibrator pocket does not stay in place
Why I Chose It
I think the Tantus Bend Over Strap-On Kit is a fabulous combination of great quality at a great price. Compared to the other strap-ons for lesbians we are looking at today, this falls in the mid-price range, which makes this pretty good value for money when you consider everything you get in the kit!
Not only do you get two dildos to choose from, these are the Tantus Silk dildos made of premium silicone. They’re super smooth and have the perfect design for beginners or those who are interested in some strap-on anal.
I love how well the harness is made to fit a lot of different sizes. That said, people in smaller pieces may find that the excess strap can get a bit annoying during use. Still, our tester Christina loved that “the harness did not loosen at all while thrusting and the dildo stayed securely in place.” It also didn’t chafe like she had suspected it would. Although, the small vibrator pocket didn’t keep the vibrator in place very well.
“The little vibrator comes with a battery and feels like a cheap plastic cover, but has a decently strong buzz and has proven durable.” So, if you already have a favorite bullet vibrator you could use that instead. If you have other dildos, or want to buy other dildos then this harness will accommodate them too.
Compared to some of the other products in this review, this kit is super easy to clean. The dildos can be fully sterilized. For Christina, “the fact that the harness can be thoroughly washed gives this kit a big advantage over my leather harness for using with other partners.”
Budget-Friendly Strap-On-Me Bendable Strap-On Small
- Smooth silicone strapless strap-on
- Adjustable hinge
- Egg-shaped insertable pony
- Slimline dildo with a pronounced tip.
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Great quality
- ✅ 3 sizes available
- ✅ The adjustable hinge makes it easy to customize the fit
- ✅ Both the pony and the dildo provide great internal massage
Cons
- ❌ The dildo is almost too flexible
Why I Chose It
I’ve had the pleasure of testing out the Strap-On-Me Bendable Strap-On Small myself. Now, even though I’m not a big fan of using strap-ons in general (as the wearer, that is), I absolutely LOVE this little guy!
First things first, the silicone is so luxuriously soft and smooth. As a professional sex toy tester, I’ve tried a lot of different silicone toys, and this is one just feels so comfortable!
The adjustable hinge allowed me to customize the angle to fit my body (which I always feel is a struggle with some sex toys). This, along with the wide, egg-shaped pony, helped it stay pretty securely in place when thrusting about.
My absolute favorite part is the internal massage. Now, I’ve tried both ends of this strapless strap-on, and they both deliver some satisfying g-spot and a-spot massage. I especially like that every movement in the dildo can be felt (intensely) in the pony!
The dildo is super flexible and lightweight which does make it a bit difficult to maneuver (especially for anal penetration). Another small thing to keep in mind is that the dildo in the Small size is a bit short. So if you have a larger FUPA or tummy, this can make the full length even less accessible when wearing it.
Best For Clit Stimulation Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On
- Vibrating strapless strap-on
- Flexible “rabbit ears” for the wearer’s clitoral stimulation
- Dual-motor design for evenly distributed vibrations
- Offers 8 vibration patterns and 12 speeds.
Vibrations
Specifications
Pros
- ✅ Great for versatile solo and couples' play
- ✅ Storage bag included
- ✅ Vibration settings in both ends can be controlled seperately
Cons
- ❌ Doesn't stay in place very well
- ❌ There's a learning curve to using the buttons
Why I Chose It
The Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On offers something that most of the other strapless strap-ons in this review don’t: direct clitoral stimulation. The silicone rabbit ears adds to the wearer’s pleasure so simultaneous orgasm is made possible!
Of course, this device is best suited for those who already know that they enjoy a classic rabbit-style vibrator. The design is not a universal fit and the toy isn’t adjustable so be sure that your body already knows and likes those rabbit ears.
What I like about this toy, as a lesbian strap-on, is the vibration settings. First of all, there are many to explore and enjoy. But being able to control them separately makes it easy to customize to your likings. Of course, it would be easier to play around with those settings with remote control.
Our tester, Vicki, also noted that she “pleasantly discovered that this toy could be used as two separate toys too: G-spot vibrator and a vibrating dildo!”. Technically, it’s also a rabbit vibrator. Versatility is always a plus in my book.
The main drawback is the design of the insertable pony. It doesn’t stay in place during thrusting and “it is a lot of pressure on the vagina to hold onto the strap on so it can get quite tiring, however the vibrations do help to increase the pleasure.” I recommend using it with a harness to make the whole experience more enjoyable.
Comparison
Best | Test Winner | Best for Beginners | Budget-Friendly | Best For Clit Stimulation |
Overall score | 4.5 / 5.0 | 4.3 / 5.0 | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.3 / 5.0 |
Bedbible rating | 5.0 / 5.0 | 4.1 / 5.0 | 4.9 / 5.0 | 4.6 / 5.0 |
User rating | 4 / 5.0 from 1 users | 4.5 / 5.0 from 70 users | 5 / 5.0 from 3 users | 4.1 / 5.0 from 249 users |
Price | Premium | Affordable | Moderate | Moderate |
Design | 90 / 100 | 60 / 100 | 95 / 100 | 85 / 100 |
Ease of use | 85 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 85 / 100 | 40 / 100 |
Quality | 100 / 100 | 75 / 100 | 100 / 100 | 90 / 100 |
Sound | 40 / 100 | - | - | 40 / 100 |
Power | 100 / 100 | - | - | 80 / 100 |
Buzzy/Rumbly | very rumbly | - | - | somewhat rumbly |
Vibration speeds | 3 preset | 3 | - | 12 |
Vibration patterns | 4 preset | 1 | - | 8 |
Length | 9 inches | Small Dildo: 4.5 inches, Medium Dildo: 5.75 inches | 9 inches | 8 inches |
Insertable length | Shaft: 5.43 inches, Base: 3.43 inches | Small Dildo: 4.25 inches, Medium Dildo: 5.5 inches | 6.1 inches | Shaft: 5, Pony: 4.5 inches |
Diameter | Shaft: 1.61 inches, Base: 1.52 inches | Small Dildo: 0.8 inches, Medium Dildo: 1 inches | 1.06 inches | Shaft: 1.35, Pony: 1.51 inches |
Adjustable | Poseable hinge | Adjustable harness | Poseable hinge | Poseable hinge |
Materials | Silicone | Dildos: Silicone, Harness: Polyester, Hard Plastic | Exterior: Premium silicone, Interior: ABS plastic | Silicone |
Waterproof | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes |
Battery Life | Up to 150 minutes | - | - | 60 minutes |
Rechargeable | Yes | No, Uses 1 N-type Battery | - | Yes |
Charging Time | 105 minutes | - | - | - |
Travel Lock | No | No | - | No |
Remote Controls | App controls | - | - | No |
Storage Bag Included | Yes | No | Yes | Yes |
Choose Your Own Harness
If you already own a favourite dildo, or a few favourite dildos and are looking for a harness to enjoy some hands-free strap on fun, then take a look at these products. They’re all designed to give you the ultimate in lesbian strap on play.
Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness
The Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Harness is a super sexy and elegant alternative to a regular strap-on harness. This model has black lace side panels, removable garters, and an open back design for a full view of the wearer’s butt. The o-ring has a diameter of 1.5 inches which can be used with flat dildos and strapless strap-ons as well.
Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs
The Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs are made from 100% cotton for breathable and comfortable wear and have a built-in 1.5 inch diameter O-ring for strap on fun. They’re also available in 5 different sizes: S/M, M/L, L/XL, XXL.
Sportsheets Ultra Thigh Strap-On Harness
The Sportsheets Ultra Thigh Strap-On Harness is perfect for those who have a partner who loves to grind and run on their thigh. IT’s basically a way to elevate doing “the knee thing”. This harness fits around any thigh between 17 and 32 inches in circumference and has a hook and loop fastening. The o-ring is 1.75 inches in diameter.
What to Consider When Buying a Lesbian Strap-On
When selecting a lesbian strap-on there are a few different factors you’ll want to take into consideration.
Below, we’ve gathered a few different items for you to refer to when comparing potential toy options!
- Harness Type – Different harness designs will offer different experiences, varying in levels of comfort and control over the dildo. Some strap-ons can even be used without a harness, which may present an option worth looking into.
- Dildo Length & Girth – Although many strap-ons include a dildo alongside the strap, it’s also possible to buy a standalone harness. Regardless, strap-on sizes vary widely, giving you plenty of options when selecting a dildo. Just make sure that your dildo will fit inside of the harness if purchasing the harness and dildo separately!
- Materials – Non-porous, body-safe materials like silicone, metal, and glass are always best for internal use toys. The material used will affect how the toy “feels” when inserted, so it’s best to put some thought into this factor.
- Adjustability – Different types of harnesses will offer different levels of adjustability. Traditional harnesses have the most adjustability since they use actual straps, whereas strap-on underwear and strapless strap-ons can’t really be adjusted that much.
- Dildo Realism – This all comes down to personal preference: do you want your dildo to look like a genuine penis, or do you prefer more fantasy-inspired toys? The world is your oyster!
- Features – Many strap ons for lesbians offer additional features like vibrations (inside of the dildo itself), bullet vibrators to stimulate the wearer, and even remote controls for less-invasive operations. Consider these available options when making your selection.
- Price – Prices vary widely, so you should establish a set budget before comparing your options. Remember, bearing a brand name alone doesn’t justify paying a premium! If your preferred strap-on meets all of your requirements but exceeds your preferred price range, check to see if financing options are available.
Types of Strap Ons Popular with Lesbians
Different types of straps ons for lesbians are held in place using different methods.
We’ve included a brief overview of the different types available below for you to compare.
- Strapless Strap-On – These strap ons use a dual-end design, where one end functions as the actual “dildo” that will penetrate your partner. The other end is curved and often features a bulbed end, which is designed to be held in place by your vaginal muscles during use. Though these don’t specifically require using a harness, they can often be used alongside a harness for the best combination of control and stimulation.
- Traditional Harness – These strap ons use adjustable harnesses to hold the dildo in place. If you prefer adjustability then you’ll likely want to purchase this style. Many harnesses allow the wearer to adjust the mounting position and the band size of the harness, reducing the likelihood of your new purchase not fitting properly.
- Underwear/Boxer Harness – Essentially, this type of harness is underwear or boxers that are designed to support a strap-on dildo during use. Although more comfortable than a traditional harness design, they lack any reasonable level of adjustability.
- Vibrating Strap-On – These either have a dildo with built in vibrations or a bullet vibrator that can be slipped inside a pocket in the harness.
Reviewed by:
Joseph Mohrmann